It was a party 14 years in the making. Attendees included nine moms who met when our kids were in preschool. Now, we came together to anticipate and celebrate those same preschoolers’ high school graduations.
We sat around a long table at a local restaurant, passing old photos and wondering aloud where the time went.
Fourteen years is a significant span during which a preschooler goes from practically in diapers to practically in college. A mom, however, doesn’t change a bit – well, at least not her hairstyle (as one of the ladies in attendance pointed out).
To our kids, the 14 years of childhood probably elapsed at a painstakingly slow pace. From a mom’s perspective, it passed in a heartbeat. Cliché, I know, but sometimes being a mom is cliché – often, in fact, just ask my teenager.
Friendships forged during preschool run deep. My son will room at college with another boy from the class. The same boy is going to prom with one of the girls from the group. Two boys from the class had their eighteenth birthdays around the same time and promptly went together to get their first tattoos. Deep waters start as trickling streams.
For us moms, it began in a narrow hallway outside the preschool classroom where we stood three times a week waiting for our children to be dismissed. We had just minutes together – 10 on a good day – yet we managed to share and bond and build connections lasting more than a decade.
We no longer possess the luxury of 10 minutes of togetherness and chitchat in a hallway three times a week, but we’ve kept in touch in the sporadic manner that old friends can.
Fourteen years does not unfold in a vacuum. Much has happened since our 4-year-old sons thought they wanted to marry us someday – and we, for our part, believed 35 was old. Our kids have grown up (or nearly so) and we’ve got more life experiences under our (slightly widening) belts.