"Help them become resilient," Torpey said. No one is good at everything, but these students are still great.
She provided an example of a young man who wanted to coach one day. He tried out for a team, but due to his physical characteristics, he was not going to be able to play for the team. The coach was honest, but offered the man an opportunity to manage, which allowed him to help, to contribute and be part of the team. The young man was ecstatic because he could still achieve his dream.
"Their strength comes from you," Torpey said. If a student cannot fill the role he or she is aspiring to, find one that he or she can.
Not knowing the home lives of students, Torpey advised staff members that some of the children may be looking for encouragement they don't receive elsewhere. Random acts of kindness and providing examples will also be helpful.
"The impact that you have on these kids is indelible on their lives," Torpey said.
The stress in a teacher's life can impact his or her ability to be effective in the classroom. Torpey recognizes that today's stress level is higher than in the past. Technology receives part of the blame for that, as she believes people do not take enough time to relax and do what they enjoy anymore.
"We're spending so much time on these machines," Torpey said. "Your not making any connections."
According to her figures, 80 percent of today's illnesses can be tied to stress. It increases the hormone cortisol in the body and can affect many organs. Torpey asked the staff if they don't have time for themselves to refresh, how can they help students do the same.